A Practice of Intimate Relationships No.3
親密關係的練習，參
2025 | 親密關係的練習 A Practice of Intimacy Relationships No.3 |
WU PIN-YU
Media｜Video / Book
媒材｜影片 / 書
*Subsidied from the Taiwan National Culture and Arts Foundation*
*本作品獲得 113 年國家藝文基金會視覺藝術類創作補助*
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Imagine a future where revealing intimate relationships no longer exist, and in this society, too many psychological problems have caused social costs to be unbearable. Scholars point out that the disappearance of revealing intimate relationships and the indirect loneliness, lack of trust, alienation and other phenomena are the key to the problem. The future government and scientists start to study how to regain this ability.
想像一個未來，揭露式親密關係不復存在，而在這個社會中，過多的心理問題，造成社會成 本已不堪負荷。學者指出，揭露式親密關係的消失，間接造成的孤獨、缺乏信任、疏離等現 象，是形成問題的關鍵，未來政府與科學家，著手研究如何使這項能力失而復得。
In the series works, No1 provided four machines for practicing the feeling of intimacy, creating a possibility of form ing a relationships. In No.2, there are four more machines, represnting an attemptation to remain the intimate relationships. In No.3, the topic goes to how to deal with the difficulties in a relationship.
在系列作品中，No.1 用四台親密接觸機器來練習親密感受的機器，開啟了形成關係的可能性。貳，則再加入四台機器，是一種維持親密關係的嘗試。參，則將主題轉向如何面對並處理關係中的困難。
“A Practice of Intimate Relationships No.3” continues the A Practice of Intimate Relationships series, centering on the “reconstruction of the concept of marriage.” It advocates for the idea of a “holiday within relationships,” de-emphasizing the values of exclusivity, persistence, and endurance, and instead returning to self-awareness and considerations beyond social expectations. Using formats akin to music combined with health exercises and folk dance as mediums of thought training, the work seeks to provoke audiences to reconsider the values of marriage, the meaning of long-term relationships, and the very essence of human connection.
〈親密關係的練習，參〉延續〈親密關係的練習〉系列，並以「婚姻概念的重構」為中心，主張「關係中的假期」，弱化在關係中專一、堅持、忍耐的價值，回到自我感受與社會期待以外的利益考量，以類似音樂搭配健康操、土風舞的形式作為思想訓練的媒介，希望可以藉由作品，引起觀眾對婚姻價值、長久關係、人類與關係本質的重新思考。
The teaching material consists of six small volumes, which can be combined into one large volume. The six chapters include:
Lesson1 : Primitive People May Have Been Happier - The Origins of Human Partnership
Lesson2 : Infidelity may well be a duet - The Many Facets of Infidelity
Lesson3 : Love is greater than you imagine - A wealth of resources on love
Lesson4 : Some things may be unavoidable - how to face your feelings
Lesson5 : Grief may well be more healing - A Guide to Writing Tragic Stories
Lesson6 : Accumulating Good Luck for Love - Dating App, Prayer and Fortune-Telling
Lessons One to Three focus on exploring the causes and purposes of relationship formation from evolutionary and natural perspectives, encouraging reflection on the expectations and demands placed on relationships in modern society. Lessons Four and Five shift toward self-exploration, inviting readers to return to their own feelings and investigate the reasons behind their behaviors, using tragic novels as a medium for expressing emotions and facilitating self-understanding. The final lesson approaches the topic from a spiritual perspective combined with dating apps, seeking healthier mindsets and possibilities for connection, as shown in the illustration.
This work brings together perspectives from numerous publications, including Richard Dawkins’ The Selfish Gene, David Buss’ The Evolution of Desire: Strategies of Human Mating, Jessica Fern’s Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy, among others. It also integrates the original fictional narrative style of the work, extending and continuing the stories of the characters introduced in A Practice of Intimate Relationships and A Practice of Intimate Relationships No.2.
教材的成品為六小本，並能集結成一大本，如圖所示。六個章節包括：
第一課 原始人或許比較快樂──人類伴侶關係的起源
第二課 劈腿或許是種雙人舞──出軌的各種面向
第三課 愛情比你想的還要偉大──豐富的愛情參考資源
第四課 有些事或許無法逃避──如何面對你的感受
第五課 悲傷或許更為療癒──悲劇故事書寫指南
第六課 累積愛情的運氣──交友軟體祈禱與算命
在第一課到第三課，著重於以演化、自然觀點去探討關係形成的原因以及目的，來反思現代社會中對關係的期待與要求。第四課到第五課則為自我探索的部分，內容邀請讀者優先回到自身感受，並探索行為背後的原因。再以悲劇小說作為表達情緒與自我梳理的媒介。最後一課以靈性觀點與交友軟體出發，以健康的觀念和心靈，去找尋更多的可能性。
本作品集結許多著作的觀點，包括《自私的基因》、《解構愛情：性愛、婚姻與外遇的自然史》、《多重伴侶下的安全感：依附關係、創傷理論與知情同意的開放式關係》及其他多本著作，並融合作品原先虛構故事的敘事方式，且延續〈親密關係的練習〉、〈親密關係的練習，貳〉的內容，將角色的故事延伸並延續。自身感受，並探索行為背後的原因。再以悲劇小說作為表達情緒與自我梳理的媒介。最後一課以靈性觀點與交友軟體出發，以健康的觀念和心靈，去找尋更多的可能性。
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“Ah-Zhu’s Evening Time,” “Ah-Hsiang’s Bygone Days,” and “Ah-Zhao’s Tomorrow” are three musical pieces from this work. Each narrates the struggles, emotions, and questions encountered by Ah-Zhu, Ah-Hsiang, and Ah-Zhao within their relationships. These characters are modeled on Taiwanese women aged 40 to 70, drawing from the concepts, social pressures, and challenges commonly faced by this generation to portray their states and circumstances. In addition, the work uses “folk dance time” as a medium, transforming it into a space of escape—an imagined world where different thoughts and possibilities can emerge.
The collaborating dance artist is Yachung Yang, who presented the three songs respectively through health exercise, contemporary dance, and folk dance, preserving much of the spirit and characteristics inherent in these three forms. In the process, Yang referenced the lyrics, incorporating movements and dynamics that resonate with the emotions and essence expressed in the songs.
The collaborating dance therapist is Chianing Tu, who contributed many insights into the concepts and essence of dance therapy during discussions. A central focus of dance therapy is how relationships can be built through dance. Tu choreographed four segments beginning with “la la la” in Ah-Hsiang’s Bygone Days and provided feedback and reflections.
〈阿珠的傍晚時間〉、〈阿香的陳年往事〉及〈阿招的明天〉為本作品之三首音樂成果，內容敘述阿珠、阿香及阿招在關係中所遇到的困境、心情與疑問。這三個腳色以台灣 40-70 歲的女性為雛形，以此世代常會遇到的觀念、社會壓力、困境為出發，去敘述這些狀態與處境。此外，作品以「土風舞時間」作為媒介，將土風舞時間轉化成一個「逃離」的媒介，在這個世界裡，可以有不同的想法和想像。因此這三首歌曲也因應這樣的設計而生。
合作之舞蹈工作者為楊雅鈞，雅鈞將三首歌曲分別以健康操、現代舞以及土風舞的方式呈現，保留許多此三種舞種原有的精神與特色。在過程中參考歌詞內容，搭配與歌詞中情緒、精神相關的動態與動作。
合作之舞蹈治療師為涂家寧，家寧在討論過程中分享許多關於舞蹈治療的概念與精隨，如何透過舞蹈「建立關係」是舞蹈治療的重點，家寧進行了「阿香的陳年往事」中四個由啦啦啦開頭橋段的編舞，並回饋想法。
This work was presented at the Royal College of Art through a live creative sharing and dance workshop led by Pin-Yu Wu and Chia-Ning Tu. In addition to explaining the work and sharing the creative process, the workshop also invited the audience to join in dancing. Another session was held online, conducted by Pin-Yu Wu, Chia-Ning Tu, and Ya-Chun Yang , featuring a presentation of the work, a discussion of the creative process, and a video screening. Related photos are shown below.
此作品在英國皇家藝術學院舉辦一場實體創作分享+舞蹈工作坊，由吳玶萭和涂家寧進行，除進行作品解說、創作過程分享外，亦邀請現場觀眾一起跳舞；另一場則為線上創作分享會，由吳玶萭、涂家寧和楊雅鈞進行，進行作品解說、創作過程分享與影片放映。相關照片如下：
